Why are we so afraid of disagreement? Do we always have to “go along to get along” even if we think our team is making a bad decision? How can we constructively disagree without being labeled “a bad-a..”? I believe, as did Andy Grove, in constructive criticism.
We have created a Tyranny of Pleasantness – whereby we are always nice, never show emotion, never raise our voices. Although that’s socially a good idea, we need to be able to be strong when strong and assertive are called for to make our point. Especially, in the design of a project, those of us with differening opinions need to be able to assert them without being attacked by others.
So, how do you do it?